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Lucien Stanfield



Lucien is a UKCP registered psychotherapist, a member of the British Emotionally Focussed Therapy Centre and the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focussed Therapy. He is also a Fellow of the Royal Society for Public Health. He has written on a variety of relationship subjects and is the author of Mattering: Foundations for Flourishing Lives.

He transformed a local London charity into Britain’s first Well-Being Centre which has won awards for its work with older people. He is the CEO of that charity, Claremont Project, as well as being the Clinical Director for its psychotherapy and arts therapies services. He has been seeing clients in private practice for 20 years.

Prior to this, Lucien was a business strategist and turnaround expert, mostly in the USA, where he lived for 10 years. He launched the UK’s first online shopping services and is credited with making Britain’s first end-to-end ECommerce online transaction. (It was for a book from WH Smith’s!)



None of us are free from relationship problems at some point and Lucien had his share of relationship woes in the past. What he discovered back then was that the field of couples counselling was not nearly as developed as one-to-one work. Indeed, the way of working therapeutically one-to-one was often detrimental in couples work because it tended to magnify each partner’s feelings and positions without understanding the mechanisms at work. Conflict was usually framed as a power struggle and positive outcomes only tended to occur when one of the partners backed down and “changed their ways”.

Lucien wanted a different approach and found the foundations for one in Emotionally Focussed Therapy. This approach has the highest rate of success in couples counselling. But he also wanted an approach that was coaching-based rather than the traditional open-ended, non-directive, “concerned-head-nodding” style of therapy. And thus was born the Should I Staytm programme.

In addition to this programme, Lucien takes on a very small number of private, one-to-one clients each year. These slots are in high demand and there is often a waiting list. (The waiting list is currently closed.) You can find out more here.

He also set up and runs a low-cost psychotherapy service for Islington residents in London. Information on that can be found here.